Whatâ ™s the best way to get a womanâ ™s attention during that all-important first conversation? Some experts would have you believe that being attentive, maintaining eye contact, and showing interest will sweep a woman off her feet. Not so. The actuality is that women are always being fawned over by men who show their neediness by being completely absorbed in the womanâ ™s words during conversation. Contrary to popular belief, women want a man who doesnâ ™t need their validation in order to feel attractive or happy. So the best way to impress a woman when meeting her for the first time is to act like you are unimpressed. This doesnâ ™t mean you should ignore her. You should still listen to what she says, and respond to show that youâ ™re listening, but never look too interested. Sheâ ™ll see you donâ ™t need her, and that she has to work to win your respect. This drives her crazy, and sheâ ™ll start doing whatever it takes to make you want her.

One easy way to show a woman that you are unimpressed is to tease her by gently trivializing her looks. Saying Spend a lot of time on that hair this morning? or I think my grandmother has a dress just like the one youâ ™re wearing. will throw her off of her game, and make her wonder about her appearance. Her vanity will get the best of her, and sheâ ™ll begin to turn on the charm in order become more attractive to you. Being used to having men trip over themselves in order to pay her a compliment, she will see you as different, strong, confident, and worthy of her attentions.

If your lady friend is too hot for a jab at her looks to be believable, try trivializing her accomplishments instead. Ask her what she does for a living, and when she answers, act like itâ ™s no big deal. A simple, Oh, is that at all? in a casual tone will make her feel slightly insecure about her career choice. Sheâ ™ll realize that she needs to work a little harder to earn your respect, and she may launch into an explanation of why her job is so remarkable. What sheâ ™s really saying is I need you to respect me for what I do. When this happens, listen quietly and intently. After she finishes talking, just nod your head and casually say Oh. Hm. This lets her know that you understand that her job is important to her and something that she is proud of, but that you still arenâ ™t impressed. You will have her respect for listening to what she has to say, and sheâ ™ll be even more eager to earn your validation.

We men often lose our cool around beautiful women, and that can make it hard to use these techniques. It also makes it difficult to attract women, because we come off looking insecure. No matter how much you are impressed by a woman, remember never to show it in the beginning of the relationship. Remain cool and calm, and before you know it, youâ ™ll have her eating out of the palm of your hand.